“Strong men” and “pretty women” (those who, over a period of evolution, had the most power to cause harm or withhold benefits) are most easily angered, reports psychologist Aaron Seel. He concludes that the benefit of anger is to prevent yourself from being exploited. Therefore, if you feel affronted, safety and civility are often dismissed leading us to act angrily and take action. The result of this is this anger boosts confidence, optimism, and risk taking.
So, if you fall victim to anger quickly, take some time to think about what the angry person might mistakenly think is being exploited by you. That item is the subject for you to discuss versus your own personal sense of exploitation. If it isn’t obvious, find a therapist whom you can be candid with and who will be brave enough to share an opinion.