Did you know the average person sends an average of 121 business emails per day? That’s 28% of our working time dedicated to just emails! In today’s increasingly tech heavy world it can seem hard to limit your screen time. We’ve created some tech management tips to help manage your tech time:
- Schedule your email time and keep it in it’s time frame. Spend the first 20 minutes of your day focusing on nourishing tasks.
- Separate your work and personal inboxes
- Delay responding to stressful emails until you’ve had time to think of a response
- Create a default signature that is friendly and minimalist – this will save you time when sending off a quick message
If any of these tips fail to work, you may want to consider seeing a therapist. Having professional coaching and accountability can be positive ways to help limit your time devoted to tech.
PPC – Professional Psychologists & Counsellors is a successful, well respected private practice mental health therapy group serving Saskatoon and area for over 38 years. Our beautiful location in a Victorian heritage home on College Drive provides a comfortable and relaxing setting with off-street parking for our clients and therapists. We work together to build healthier relationships and happier lives.
In the coming years we will see several long-standing (and might we add outstanding) therapists retire, opening the door for new (-to-PPC), experienced therapists to join our team. PPC provides our independent contractors with an administrative support team, office space, training allowances, promotional items and ideas, off-street parking, and initial clients to begin your caseload. Therapists choose their own work schedules and private hourly rates; however we anticipate some flexibility for evenings and/or Saturdays.
We would like to contract with one or more skilled, well respected and self-motivated therapists. If you are an individual who is willing to promote yourself and build your own practice in addition to working with the contracts that PPC has worked hard to secure over the past many years, this position has great potential to provide full-time hours.
The successful candidate(s) require a designation (in good standing) with a professional association such as the SKCP or SASW, 5 years of experience, and minimum liability insurance of $2 Million. Preference will be given to Registered Psychologists with the APE designation. There is an expectation that the successful candidate(s) will have strong organizational, oral and written communication skills, and are proficient in file maintenance (clear tracking of session dates, session lengths, client attendance, and client progress).
If you would like any additional information, or would like to discuss further, please contact Dennis Coates at 1118 College Drive, Saskatoon, SK S7N 0W2 or 306-664-0000. Emails can be sent to email@example.com
We often fail to seek advice because it makes us look bad or less than. However, research actually reports the opposite. When we seek advice, generally, people are flattered that you think highly of them. In fact, being asked for advice is flattering and increases their self-confidence. In other words, others think highly of you for asking them because asking for their advice reflects on their own intelligence.
However, the seeker must be certain that the person the asker is seeking advice from knows the answer or else the results will backfire.
Therefore, seek advice! Just ensure the person you are asking it from thinks they know the topic.
John and Julie Gottman. Leaders in the field of research-based relationship therapy and pioneers of an entire field of trained therapists. John and Julie Gottman are (perhaps) the most highly recognized and regarded therapists in the field of couple’s therapy. They have made a name for themselves by basing their recommendations in research, as opposed to opinion and theory.
One of the things that they have found over their years of study and service are that relationship failure can be predicted with a massive 90% accuracy rate based on the presence of 4 main signs. These are 4 things that we may all do, they are natural behaviours. The trick is to recognize, not attribute these things to your partner, and to make amends for doing these things.
Here is an easy reference list to keep in mind when interacting with your partner:
- Criticism of your partner’s character, not action. Do you find yourself picking apart your partner’s personality, quirks, and way of life? Take a step back, stop taking their inventory, and turn the focus back onto yourself and ask yourself WHY you are picking at them.
- Contempt of your partner. This can creep into daily interactions starting with sarcasm and eye rolling. It can advance to name calling, mocking, and even outright hostile behaviour. If you catch yourself doing the above, take a pause, step back, excuse yourself from the room, calm down.
- Defensiveness against your partner. This can expressed in the form of outright righteousness and toying with your partner. Putting up walls and acting on the defense does not lend itself to creating connection.
- Stone walling your partner. This is completely withdrawing, shutting them out, closing down all communication. Again, this behaviour does not lead to creating connection, but rather creates road blocks to healing, making amends, and deepening the relationship.
We all get a little antsy when approaching various ages, as we get older. But we’ve all heard of this thing called a “mid life crisis” too. Exactly when is midlife? What constitutes a crisis? It’s certainly different for everyone, but here are some facts from extensive research done on the topic that will make you think.
Cornell University conducted a phone survey and found that over a quarter of both men and women have reported experiencing a mid life crisis. This could be due to the multiple studies that show that happiness often hits an all-time low during middle age. This low tends to be due to life events, biology, and psychology. Our bodies and minds change and evolve, leading to these feelings.
In middle age, martially speaking, it is not typically the man who asks for the divorce, but rather the woman. In America, with couple’s getting divorced, it is upwards of ⅔ of divorces being brought by the female partner. This goes against what is conventionally believed to be the case, but is absolutely true when studied in depth.
Another common occurrence in middle age is the on-set of empty nest syndrome, or lack there of. It has been shown that empty nest may be more a myth than fact. A Canadian survey of 300 parents found that a majority of parents had positive feelings of their children’s departure, as opposed to negative. This would prove that most parents actually look forward to their children leaving the home, as opposed to fear it or become depressed.
Lastly, when older people are asked what age they would like to return to, a majority say their 40’s! Despite biological & psychological changes, partnered with major life changes, most people still end up recounting their 40’s as a time they would like to go back to. This may or may not prove the existence of the mid life crisis, but only your own personal experience can determine how real this phenomenon is in your own life.
Researchers have known for a few decades the extreme importance of REM sleep. This cycle is critical to our ability to create ideal sleep. The trouble is, we can’t force ourselves to have it. That’s right, we can’t demand our bodies to have REM sleep.
Ken Wright, the director of The Sleep & Chronobiology Lab at the University of Colorado, reports that there is no universal wake-up time. We’re all on our own biological sleep and wake cycles. However, it’s been shown that it is ideal to awaken at the conclusion of an REM sleep cycle, which is just before we awaken naturally.
Ken suggests that you try and set your natural alarm clock by self-monitoring your natural wake-up time while you’re on holidays. Once you’ve established this natural wake-up time, you can begin to structure your day around this point. Creating a daily routine around this natural ideal time will create optimal effectiveness of REM sleep.
First brought to light in the 1950’s, Karen Horney is known for her description of imperative thinking relating to emotional consequences. She was a psychology writer who was known as a feminist before feminism. Karen wrote on the topic of how humans see the “shoulds” and the “musts” in contradiction with the actual reality in the world around us and how this schism often causes emotional upheaval.
Frought with demanding terminology, imperative thinking and speaking can be one of the most destructive forces in intimate and interpersonal relationships. While we all fall to this form internal and external dialogue every now and then, it’s those people around us that use imperative thinking all of the time that become conflict creators. These people can also be leaders, bosses, and CEOs, so we mustn’t put everyone into the same category.
The top terms used within external and internal dialogue that indicate imperative thinking are phrases like “ought to”, “have to”, and “ entitled to”. Sometimes questions can also indicate imperative thinking like “why?” and “how come?”. These are all questions and phrases that are followed with a strong personal viewpoint that is often a definitive. There is no flexibility for the person behind those viewpoints – their opinion is THE opinion, the only “right” way.
As you can see, this can cause quite the conflict in all sorts of situations. When one or both parties involved in a conversation or an exchange become inflexible on their viewpoints, and neither are truly based in the actual reality of whatever they are speaking on, it can lead to conflict. This generally stems from demands versus expectations. When a demand is made it is generally more explicit, verbal, and stated clearly. When an expectation is set it is often implicit, internal, and part of the inner dialogue, meaning it is rarely stated out loud. The conflicts between these two ways of communication is clear and can lead to misunderstandings, anger, and disappointment.
If you’re finding yourself making demands or creating expectations, there are a few things you can do to work on changing your mindset. Here are a set of questions that you should consider asking yourself before you pass a judgement, create imperial thoughts, or make a demand:
- Will it bring out your best?
- Will it bring out other’s best?
- Will it help you with your long-term goals?
- Will it make you the kind of person you want to be?
- Is it morally and ethically sound?
Take these questions into account each and every time you find your mind and mouth wandering towards imperative thinking. You’ll become a willing and flexible participant in constructive and open conversations with people you never thought possible. Keep an open mind.
You know the old adage, the one that says money can’t buy you happiness? Well, science begs to differ — sort of.
According to the Scientific American Mind, purchasing experiences — not goods — can give us greater well-being. That is to say, buying a $60 ticket to an activity leads to more happiness than getting a receipt for a purchase. Here’s why: Experiences generally involve social relationships. Items rarely do. Yes, we may re-use the item, but it has diminishing value as it ages or as the novelty wears off. Whereas social relationships characterized by experiences can self-generate, more relationships beget more relationships. Most of us can speak of a social relationship that is now a permanent quality relationship that was achieved as a result of a common experience.
I am a car guy. As far back as I can remember I have had a fascination with anything that has wheels. I still have my steel wagon from preschool, I had a go-kart at the age of 9, and my first car at 13. The research gets a little shabby around me though as I derived, and still derive, a lot of satisfaction from automobiles. However, I have far more memories of experiences (mostly because of an automobile, not ownership) than I do of purchasing said vehicles.
A second factor explaining why experience generates more well-being than an item is dopamine. Who would have guessed? Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that controls our reward and pleasure centers. It is generated as a result of delayed gratification. By going for the quick shiny ticket item your brain produces less chemical happiness. Delaying your gratification to go to a concert a month later increases your happiness. So instead of a ten minute rush you get, twenty minutes of brain opportunity to think, plan and visualize your positive expense.
That is a lot of dopamine!
— Dennis Coates